Dealing with a divorce is exceptionally challenging for you and your children. It is essential for both you and your ex to provide stability for your children during the divorce.
Some parents choose to provide their children with stability with the living arrangement experts call “nesting” or “birdnesting.” According to NBC News, “nesting” involves the children remaining in the family home while parents rotate in and out to provide care.
Here’s what you should know about nesting and how it can help you provide stability for your children.
What are the advantages of nesting?
At the beginning of the divorce process, you and your ex will probably need space from each other. However, you may not have figured out your post-divorce living arrangements.
Nesting allows your children to stay in a familiar place while everyone learns how they will move forward through the divorce process. Rather than the children needing to go to one home or the other, the parents travel back and forth from the “nest home” while the children remain.
In some cases, parents maintain their own separate homes, meaning there are three homes between the parents and the children. For parents who can keep a peaceful relationship, you can share a parent home, similar to how you are sharing the home where the children live.
What are the disadvantages of nesting?
Nesting is typically not a permanent solution. It can be difficult for the parents to get the independence they need and, sometimes, leads children to the false hope that their parents may get back together. Often, a nesting solution lasts for about six months to one year.
Divorce involves numerous changes for the family and the kids. Nesting is an innovative way to start the transition process.