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Protecting children emotionally during divorce

On Behalf of | Jun 29, 2022 | Divorce |

When parents in Missouri get divorced, their children are understandably impacted emotionally. Unfortunately, sometimes parents who are ending their marriage become so consumed with their own feelings that they neglect to consider the children’s. Here are a couple of tips for helping young children through the divorce process in the healthiest way possible. 

Talking about divorce 

Parents who are getting divorced would be wise to share with their kids why they are separating. Of course, it is best to avoid giving lengthy, detailed narratives. Instead, it’s usually best to simply provide the children with the basic facts. For instance, they can explain that they have been struggling to live together and will therefore need to live in separate homes moving forward. Children typically want to be reassured that both of their parents love them and will continue to be there for them. A straightforward, thoughtful conversation may make it for the children to process and accept the divorce. 

Avoiding conflict 

Divorcing parents should try to minimize their conflict with each other in front of the children. Instead of fighting with each other to get their way, the parents should ideally focus on their children’s needs. Then, they can make their divorce-related decisions through their children’s eyes, doing what is ultimately best for the kids in terms of custodial and parenting time arrangements. This may help to make the divorce a less stressful ordeal for the kids in the short and long term. 

Help and support are readily available  

The divorce process is often complicated when young children are involved. This is particularly true when the parents do not see eye to eye on how to tackle divorce issues such as child custody. Fortunately, an experienced attorney in Missouri can help to pursue a fair and comprehensive settlement. The lawyer will focus on ensuring that any settlement correctly reflects his or her client’s wishes, protects the client’s rights and protects the long-term interests of all children involved. 

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